tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post4674757442624322438..comments2023-04-06T03:16:11.556-07:00Comments on Twenty Eight and a Half: Highs and lows: The "You're not worth it" editionCrystalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10786820270214837846noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-79761496554729173612010-11-30T20:36:08.387-08:002010-11-30T20:36:08.387-08:00Wow! Holy wow! I'm speechless. I just can&#...Wow! Holy wow! I'm speechless. I just can't imagine going through that with it's your own husband's mother!? My heart goes out to you and "D". I hope you can put this whole awful family and scenario behind you and just spend the rest of your life around people who are your biggest fans - those who love you and encourage you and complete you, no matter what your background, religion or culture is. <br /><br />I know I'd love to have you over so we can talk about our lack of faith, our love of films and how we're all just basic human beings trying to find our place in this world.<br /><br />Lots of love!<br />Mandy<br /><br />www.mandylifeafter30.com<br />www.learn-laugh-cook.blogspot.comMandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345244543899178740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-88032055659870182682010-11-29T20:48:17.813-08:002010-11-29T20:48:17.813-08:00Wow, what a holiday. I'm so sorry that you and...Wow, what a holiday. I'm so sorry that you and D have to put up with that shit. I don't understand how people can be ignorant like that and have huge fights about inconsequential things like that. I hope for your sake that it won't come up again but I also hope for D's sake that he can reconcile with his family. It's so hard to have that divide and he shouldn't have to put up with it. I'm so sorry for all of that. Again, what a holiday...!Jessica @ Wanting Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12259936815744813817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-34885032090556976422010-11-29T17:13:03.733-08:002010-11-29T17:13:03.733-08:00I'm sorry. I know (slightly) how it feels. My ...I'm sorry. I know (slightly) how it feels. My ex boyfriend whom I lived with for nearly 4 years, broke up with me because his mother told him to. Mainly, because I am Jewish. My religion is very loosely defined, my mom goes to temple fairly regularly and my dad does not. I don't attend either. Christmas and Hannukah have always been celebrated in my house, with friends and family. I never told my ex I wanted him to convert or anything along those lines, I was happy being a very non-religious couple that participated in religious holidays (we always had a Christmas tree, did Easter brunch, etc.) But, that wasn't good enough for his mom and unfortunately, his mom won. He never sided with me, he never saw her as being a bigot and he never understood why I was so upset. Needless to say, we broke up. Also, he know lives with his mother, probably where he belongs. <br /><br />I think it's great that D supports you and is able to speak up to his family when they are very wrong. I hope you're able to escape the drama soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-85713198455230909792010-11-29T09:46:24.535-08:002010-11-29T09:46:24.535-08:00Well holy shit. I'm reading this over my secon...Well holy shit. I'm reading this over my second cup of tea today and am in complete shock and awe. <br /><br />First of all, I believe what you did was courageous. You didn't falter in any way, shape or form and become a submissive woman (I'm assuming your MIL meant that as well). Secondly, sometimes your "family" doesn't really act as such. Believe me, my father's side of the family ostrisizes my immediate family for my grandparents divorce that happened when I was only 5 years old. They even went to great lengths to keep my godfathers death a secret until after the arrangements and my great aunt Toni called my father at 7 am on Thanksgiving morning to bear the news. Lovely people, right?<br /><br />I also want to add that I've had to cut out some people in my life based on my relationship with M as well. M is what I like to call a Neopolitan (the best of all the flavors): 1/2 black, 1/4 Puerto Rican and 1/4 white. And some of those people couldn't accept us. All they saw was skin color. So, I cut them out of my life. <br /><br />I understand what you are going through. You are a very strong and courageous woman, and I know you and D will get through this together. ANd, the people that matter most are still very much a part of your lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-49746394856366333192010-11-29T07:46:32.798-08:002010-11-29T07:46:32.798-08:00I am so sorry to hear about your husbands family. ...I am so sorry to hear about your husbands family. It really is truly amazing how ignorant people are. <br /><br />I am glad you your family is supportive and gave you a great Thanksgiving Eve.<br /><br />Hugs!Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17624843745508330853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-18296271492329213552010-11-29T04:36:38.724-08:002010-11-29T04:36:38.724-08:00I'm not sure that there are any words to say t...I'm not sure that there are any words to say that would make any sense or provide any comfort to you at this time. Religion has long been an excuse for bigotry, ignorance, hate and war. I was raised a catholic and I have seen some of the most pious church-going people do unchristian things to their own families whether it was unkind words or actions. I'm just really sorry that you and your husband have had to experience, the saying is true that 'you can't choose your family!' At least you have each other. Take care and here's to more highs! xxCameronPoe2409https://www.blogger.com/profile/13686916250029124773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2815834309557369045.post-91834657540043886152010-11-28T23:15:56.977-08:002010-11-28T23:15:56.977-08:00I'm proud of you for staying strong and proud ...I'm proud of you for staying strong and proud of D for standing by you. I wish I had the right words to say, but I am sad to say that after searching my heart, no matter how much I wish I did, I don't. I can say I know very well how you feel, and if I could give you hugs and comfort and fix all of it, I would.Marzipanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12020042066217939546noreply@blogger.com